The Purge (Part 1)

LISA

Right now it seems like half my possessions are in the recycle bin out by the road, in an overflowing box in my office ready to go out to the recycle bin, in a trash can, in the living room of a local college student’s first apartment, or for sale at a local thrift store.

Going, going, gone
We plan to rent out the house while we’re traveling. That means our stuff will go into storage. A 10-by-20 storage facility costs $160 a month to rent. And it will probably go up every year. So do the math: If we are going to be gone 10 years, it will cost more than $20,000 to store our possessions. If a 10-by-25 costs 20% more per month, that’s $4,000 more to store our possessions.
Tens of thousands of dollars for stuff to sit in a dark, climate-controlled concrete cave for who knows how long.
So logically, of course, it makes sense to pare down, to take stock and keep only what we really need or want, and jettison the rest. It’s only stuff, right? We are going to learn to live without all these things around us and travel light for our adventurous life.
We made a lot of great memories in this pop-up
We have entered the Purge Phase.
The trash men
I know the trash men really hate us. Our purging creates giant piles of trash every Friday morning. They’ve stopped bringing the trash can and recycle bins back up to the garage and are just dumping them sideways in the driveway now, clearly disgusted by our garbage excess.
Giving it away
A college student at CU Boulder moving into her first apartment now has one of our coffee tables. The Grove Sale, a huge annual church yard sale for charity, got the wood-and-tile table and chairs, extra performance bike, office chair and more. ARC, the Thrift Store on Colfax, is getting tons of clothes. A charity bookstore has been the grateful recipient of 15 boxes of books.
Sad to say goodbye to this Wurlitzer
Next Door, Craigslist and Facebook Marketplace are my new best friends. Even a cat-clawed living room chair can find a grateful home if it’s free.
But oh, the pain
But when you’re getting rid of it, that’s when you realize how much meaning your stuff has, and how painful it can be to let it go.
Keeping: The gray cat mask Lexie made in art class in 4th grade. I can’t get rid of it, even though she thinks it’s really ugly. The bust Aryk crafted in art class in high school. The Boparder Hamm wine bottle from Germany. 

Ditching: The arts and craft stuff. The giant L-shaped couch. The glass-topped dining room table from Bob’s life before me. The piano I bought from a pastor friend that used to live in a church I loved – pianos don’t keep well in storage. But damned if it doesn’t hurt to think of the hours our oldest child Aryk spent learning to sing while their teacher BJ played that piano in my living room.
But I will NOT miss this dining table!
My youngest daughter Lexie is better at this purging stuff. She had a huge smile on her face as she filled five boxes with kid and young adult books for a local nonprofit bookstore’s donation pickup. Bob also shoves books aside with nary a sigh. But I stroke each one lovingly, reminisce about the feelings evoked by the story within, and then sadly place it into the recycling box.
Sigh
So the bookshelves are mostly bare.  The travel maps and books from all the journeys I’ve taken, both with Bob and before Bob are gone. The articles I wrote for a church where I worked 10 years ago have been recycled. The popup where we camped as a family all over Colorado was sold to happy family who are ready to start their own camping traditions.
The good news is the regret is gone within a day, and now I feel lighter. And really, we are doing our kids a favor. They won’t have to sort through a lifetime worth of junk when we die, because we’ve done a lot of the work for them already. OK, it’s a morbid thought, but a practical one.
So purge on!

To be continued …

Loss

LISA

I just left my office at Evergreen Park and Rec District for the last for the last time. I feel really sad. There’s a pain in my stomach. 


I’ve never before left a job that I still loved.

Last night there was a farewell party for me. I had to get a picture with everyone I cared about – Liz and Laura and Marissa and Ann Marie and Heart and Heather and Jason and more. Before I left today,  I printed out some of the pictures, wrote personal notes, and left them on their desks — just saying thanks for making work here such a wonderful experience. I hope I will be remembered with affection!

Then I drove (choking back tears) out of lovely Evergreen, with its elk and its mountains, its iconic lake and its charming old west downtown, and hundreds of familiar faces, many of which I will never see again.

I know I’m going forward to the next adventure, and the next phase of my life. But wow. I have to get through all this emotion first.

There’s no getting out of it. I just have to feel it.

The building where I worked for 6 1/2 years

My office

The Lunch Bunch

Laura and me

Ann Marie and me

The Birth of the Idea

BOB

We’re about to start an adventure. We don’t know where it will lead. It actually took a fairly extensive conversation just a few days ago to even reconstruct the evolution of how we got to where we are now.



I remember first starting to think about what it would look like when our kids graduated high school nearly 12 years ago when we lived in Mamaroneck, NY, just outside New York City. At the time, we lived in a 2400 sq ft house which, even then, had yearly taxes of $15,000. We saw the school district continue to raise taxes and saw that this forced some lifelong Mamaroneck residents from their homes as they could no longer afford the taxes. We realized then that we couldn’t afford to live there once we stopped working so began thinking about what we might do when that time in our life arrived.

Our Lake House in central Vermont
At first, our plan was to go live in our vacation home in Vermont. However, after thinking about that for a few years, we both came to the realization that we wanted more than that, and living in rural Vermont would be pretty boring, and colder than we would want at that stage in our lives during the winter.

By the time we moved to Colorado 8 ½ years ago we had already begun thinking about “hitting the road” in retirement. We began talking about buying a big RV and a big truck to haul it. We talked about traveling the country, exploring and seeing many of the great places that exist in this country. We talked about spending up to a couple weeks at each location, being in the south in the winter and north in the summer. We talked with people about what it would be like to spend the summer in one location and be camp hosts. We even talked about being seasonal Amazon workers. We looked at RVs at RV shows and found some that would work for us.


This book changed everything.
I was excited about that plan. I had a goal of visiting every national park and hiking and exploring every day. I thought we were set. All we needed was for Lexie to graduate from High School, go off to college and we would be off too.


A book changed our direction

That all changed a year and a half ago when Lisa went to the library to get some travel books for an upcoming trip to Belize. She came back with the book The International Living Guide to Retiring Overseas on A Budget.” During the exceptionally rainy vacation in Belize, I read the book and immediately told her she needed to read it too. 

From that moment our “set” plans changed. We realized that we could expand the traveling and exploration we had planned for the US to the world. We realized that we could really get to know parts of the world that people usually rush through in a few days and we realized that there were just so many places that we wanted to experience. We also realized that if we explored the world while we were still young, we could still come back to the US and explore it in our RV.

The new plan was set!

Tips:

Other great books we have also read include:


How to Retire Overseas: Everything You Need to Know to Live Well (for Less) Abroad


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